So, as far as it goes, I've been struck with a realization that I've needed for some time now. I am glad that I've heard it, but annoyed that it took me so long to do so.
If we're being honest, I've been through a lot in my life. I'm not going through my life story right now, but just know that shit has occured in my life. And because of all I've been through, I've certainly been broken about it. And whenever I've talked to people about what I am dealing with, I've always said something genericly Christian, like, "Oh, well God will take care of me." or "I mean, this is God's will.". And of course, people would just nod in agreeance, because it is the truth! I'm not upset that they agreed, but nobody told me what I really needed to hear.
So, here is how it happened: I was talking with my good friend Emily, whom I love so dearly and my heart is constantly hurting for her. She is going through a lot right now, and she was talking to one of our church staff members, and gave him one of those generic Christian answers. He responded with agreeing, but then saying, "....but, it must really hurt. It's okay to hurt."
No one has told me that.....
No one has said that it is okay for me to be hurt by everything that is going on, even though it really is.
So, this is my SO BIG realization, that I hope other people can realize. Sometimes, things are going to be really hard. And through that all, we are allowed to feel hurt over it. We are allowed to take time to heal. We shouldn't be expected to get over it right away, and if we are then that person is just wrong.
So, I guess it may not be that big to other people, but it has meant a big deal to my heart. I honestly cried for a good hour over it.
It really is okay to be hurt.
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